The difficulties of being sent or why it's hard to not just throw a tantrum
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When I was growing up, I had the ability to charm most of my parents’ friends. “Moms love me,” I used to say. But after a while, that politeness kind of wore off. The truth is, if we are actually going to forge a real relationship, we might have to withstand some conflict—and I think it’s worth it, usually, to try and get intimate enough to have a messy conflict and then see what happens. I think most of the times, instead of having a good conflict, we end up just fleeing altogether, afraid of what might happen if we actually are vulnerable enough to make our needs and ideas known. I don’t think that’s very good relating, but I think it might be the “learned default” for some of us.
The difficulties of being sent or why it's hard to not just throw a tantrum
The difficulties of being sent or why it's…
The difficulties of being sent or why it's hard to not just throw a tantrum
When I was growing up, I had the ability to charm most of my parents’ friends. “Moms love me,” I used to say. But after a while, that politeness kind of wore off. The truth is, if we are actually going to forge a real relationship, we might have to withstand some conflict—and I think it’s worth it, usually, to try and get intimate enough to have a messy conflict and then see what happens. I think most of the times, instead of having a good conflict, we end up just fleeing altogether, afraid of what might happen if we actually are vulnerable enough to make our needs and ideas known. I don’t think that’s very good relating, but I think it might be the “learned default” for some of us.