How does telling the truth create safety? How does telling the truth create a home? Most of the time, it seems like we are not so good at telling the truth. We are afraid of articulating how we feel. We think expressing our emotions will cause more trouble than they are worth and than we are worth. That might have been your whole Thanksgiving experience—stay quiet, don’t cause too much trouble, just get through the holiday. I think some people live their whole life like they are avoiding causing too much trouble at the Thanksgiving table.